Well.... simple as can be Finally got my graphics card working in ubuntu multi monitor style...
All i had to do was download the correct driver for AMD64 environment and run it from a rebooted recovery console. sooo.
had to cd into my downloads directory and then run sudo sh ./NVIDIA-Linux-x86_64-280.13.run
and i was golden!
on next boot into my x session i ran the nvidia-settings and i had a gorgeous twinhead setup! WOOT!